In order to be free, i need to be me.
Paul Cooke expressed a lot of wisdom when he said "You should be real (although) not good. That will make you happy."
The only time we're not real is when we're trying to hide a part of our self, a part of our life. Much like what Deepak Chopra said, which i forgot exactly what, but i know it's about being real.
Being real and happiness are really connected. Being real means becoming free. Freedom brings happiness.
In Father Fernando's sermon he said that to be happy, we have to stop feeling that we are the center of the universe, which i think in psychology is called being ego-centric.
Which, also makes a lot of sense because when we forget oneself, we also forget about worries.
Which brings back to be one of the quotes from whom, i forgot-- forget yourself into greatness.
Which also makes a lot of sense because the only time i was able to give my best was when i did not think about what the audience thinks or appear to think.
In contrast, i remember Deepak saying something about being selfish once in a while, meaning, to prioritize self goals other than team goals, to go for that activity that is not urgent, but that will be important for one's future.
Which brings me to a dilemma. Why work so much for the future when we don't even know what it will bring?
Michael Gerber notes that planning does not ensure realization. It just gives direction. Planning should not be a solid thing etched on stone, rather, it should be flexible, fluid. The more important thing is the vision rather than the plan. The picture, the destination, rather than the map.
Planning is futile and frustrating if we are not aware that plans are not the sure thing. The better way is to have discernment to determine every activity. Action-Reaction. Cause-and-effect. Crime and punishment. Truth or consequence.
Which brings me to another dilemma. If i will be happy when i surrender, why do i even have to think of the results?
I guess it will all just boil down to balance.
To surrender without being careless.
To give the best for the present without worrying about the results.
To be hopeful about the future without betting on it.
-Verna
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-Verna
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hey. ambilis magrespond sa text ha. post agad. yehey. arvin told me na buhayin daw ulit ang peregrine. dead ma na. pero kanina binalikan ko tapos napamessage ako sa inyo na oo nga buhayin natin ulit. arvin promised to start posting soon. :)
ReplyDeleteanyway, i got lost sa transition between happiness and making plans. haha.:)
some random thoughts on happiness. sana makarelate ka.
paulo coelho said that the search for happiness is a deeply personal journey (hindi ko ito makalimutan sa kanya - kalevel ng personal legend lines niya), hindi daw siya one-size-fits-all na t-shirt. also sa alchemist meron dun kwento yung alchemist kay Santiago about the secret of happiness yata. hehe. the secret of happiness is to see the wonders of the world but at the same taking good care of the two drops of oil that one carries in a spoon.
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TWO DROPS OF OIL!
- abbey
alchemist... the book that i have procrastinated on reading for 7 years na. hahaha
ReplyDeleteactually, this composition was meant to be magulo. that reflects exactly the state of my mind at the time i was writing this (between mid-March to April of this year). :)
The Two Drops of Oil -- http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/02/04/the-two-drops-of-oil-2/
I'm not sure if I caught the secret. At this point, i can say that to be happy, we need to do work and we should be able to enjoy the rewards of that work at the same time.
Too much work to the point of ignoring beauty (or pleasure) equals unhappiness. Too much pleasure to the point of neglect in the use of skill or talent equals unhappiness.
What do you think, housemates?
-Verna